Equality is a wonderful thing, but as I have discovered, there are indeed some fundamental differences between men and women.
By now, everyone has heard that men think about sex constantly. Constantly. And when they're not thinking about sex? I know what they're thinking.
Can I take him?
They're sizing up the other guys around them and deciding whether or not they can beat those other guys up.
I'm sure that somewhere in their brains are the thoughts that make their jobs work, their paychecks happen, their families function - but the top two thoughts in the male mind are when will I get laid again? and can I take him?
Yesterday after lunch with my dad and my brothers, Darling Man was quiet on the short drive back to work. Then out of the blue, he says, "I know what I'd have to do to take Andy. You can't just hit him - it would be like punching a concrete post. What would be the point? You'd have to wait until he came after you and then use his momentum against him."
Now you might be thinking that because we take KenPo, this kind of thing is a little closer to the surface than for "normal" people, but I must disabuse you of that notion. Darling Man has wondered aloud on other occasions, pre-KenPo, about his ability to "take" some other guy.
And it's not just him. I have spent most of my life around the male gender (being the only girl in a family of six kids). I have brothers. A father. Lots of male friends and co-workers. And at some time or another, I have heard ALL of them make a similar comment. I just never quite put it together until yesterday.
As a species, humans have done a lot of evolving. But we still have a lot in common with our ancient ancestors. Think about your idea of a caveman. There he is, in his animal skin with his scraggly long hair and beard, dragging some poor cavewoman back to his cave by the hair for sex. But what's in his other hand? A club.
Yup. Sex and survival. That's still what it's all about.