You may have noticed a couple of changes to my blogroll - if you ever look at it. It's been a long time since I did anything to it, but as I was cruising down the list the other day, I realized that there were a few there that had changed their names, one I'd misspelled (sorry, Jeff), some that had gone inactive - no new posts in ever so long, and some that I just didn't visit anymore for whatever reason. I also had some new ones that I'd been keeping in my "Favorites" list that deserved a place on my blogroll.
So a-editing I went. Delete, delete, delete. Edit, edit, edit. Add, add, add.
But one deletion broke my heart again. MySmile is missing from my blogroll now. She died back in July and in the same way that I used to call my grandmother every couple of days for a few months after she died, I would click on MySmile's link and go to her blog, halfway anticipating a new entry that would make the last couple of months just a bad dream. But there never were. Only a couple of new comments - one from her mother saying that she was gone and one from me, trying to explain why I was still visiting.
How do you de-activate a blog once the owner has passed on? MySmile's sister has taken this opportunity to print out the entire blog for her son Link before it goes away, if it goes away. So, I suppose this is something to think about. Perhaps in your final papers somewhere - you know, the ones that go to family members afterwards, we should all include our blog information. User name and password so that those left behind can make decisions about blogs. Because for now, it seems that MySmile will live forever in the blog-o-sphere. And maybe that's the way it should be.