Sunday, February 10, 2008

The Art of Maintenance

My son spent the night with his friend last night, leaving me and Darling Man alone to twiddle our thumbs and wonder how the boy was doing.

Thankfully, that only lasted a few minutes.

Then, we had a conversation.

A real conversation.

It's funny how you can live with someone, eat with someone, share raising a child with someone - and yet, while you're doing all these things, you don't talk.

You share information about dentist appointments and ask what's for dinner. You mention that the dog needs a walk or that someone needs to start calling for roofing estimates. You ask for help reaching something up high or yell for a hand when you're about to drop something heavy.

But you don't really talk.

Last night, with no child hanging around to interrupt or need something every two seconds, Darling Man and I got to talk about music, and movies, and philosophy. We talked about the contrasts and similarities between our chosen martial arts. We talked about books we've been reading.

It was nice. Very nice.

11 comments:

Sandy said...

Oh, I'm so glad. Sounds like a lovely evening.

karatemom said...

you have no idea how lucky you are

That girl said...

Ah - the joy of sleepovers.

Liane Michel said...

That's awesome to hear Sarah. We need to do lunch.

min said...

Wonderful, but wasn't it nice to get him back too!?

Jeff said...

That's great. Really great. I understand how great that can be!

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Alison said...

Isn't that wonderful!!! 25 years later, my husband and I can sit and talk for hours...and not about the kids!! what a blessing.

karisma said...

Mmmm, I am with you on this. Took us about 16 years to work that one out. But when we did.... WOW! Welcome to eternity!

Babzy said...

Wow Sayre! That is so awesome that you and hubby can sit together and converse. It's like being on a date. Most couples run out of things to talk about that don't involve the kids or money or household.

wolfbaby said...

hmmm how old are the kiddies before this happens?

sounds like a wonderful evening.