Sunday, February 06, 2011
Choices and Changes
My son started out this year so enthusiastic about going to middle school and meeting new kids and learning some really new stuff in a different, more fast-paced way. No more sitting in the same classroom for half a day at a time listening to the same teacher. He was excited about changing classes once an hour with lots of different kids in different classes.
But things haven't worked out that way. He went from being so happy to being so miserable. On the way to school the other day, he said, "You know, Mom... every grade seems to have one kid that everyone picks on. In my grade, that's me." I wanted to cry. He continued, "I don't even want to be popular... I just want to be invisible." That was my strategy when I was in middle school too - but I was good at invisible. He is not.
We've talked to teachers and guidance counselors, we've brainstormed amongst ourselves - but things aren't really getting any better. My husband is resistant, but I think it might be time to change schools. It's a shame; we'd had such high hopes and expectations of this school and it's not turning out the way we wanted at all.
My friend Tasha has kids in a charter school, and she thinks it might be a better fit for him. It's a small school, with only 160 kids in the middle school part. I've signed up for a tour of the school and I'm taking my boy with me. It will be his decison as much as ours. From what I hear, the school is wonderful - but is a little light on the extras... there's art and music but not much else. But art is where his heart is, and really - an education is about the other stuff anyway, at least at this level.
So we'll see. Something has to change. We're looking at options, but letting him choose which one he needs.